Girl, UN-interrupted


About the author: Gary Graham was born in Long Beach, California in the ‘50s and grew up in Southern California, the son of a medical doctor. An aspiring physician himself, he took a left turn in college when he happened into an acting class – and 10 years later through circui ... [read 's FULL BIO]

Every father of a teenage daughter shares the same terrifying fear. No, I’m not talking about her dating a pierced, tatted, dread-locked, gold-grilled, underground rapper (who voted for Obama). I’m talking about a physical attack happening to your daughter… and you’re not there to protect her.

I think it was during the ’92 riots in L.A. that I first got the notion I should buy a gun. So I bought a Sig Sauer 226 — a sweet 9mm semi-auto pistol. Okay, all set to defend the ‘mouth of the cave’, right? Fire a few dozen rounds at a paper target and now I can competently defend the family if I hear broken glass in the middle of the night, right?
Uh, … not exactly.

It was a small scary incident in my neighborhood sometime later, nothing major as it turned out; but in a frantic, defensive posture I found myself with my loaded gun in my hand, a flashlight in the other… and not the slightest idea what to do next. Fortunately, I wasn’t called upon that night to spring into a tactical, live-saving scenario. At that moment I realized I had better get some expert training on gun handling before I blew my foot off or worse — hurt somebody that didn’t warrant hurting.
I found Front Sight Firearms Training Institute outside of Las Vegas, Nevada. I trained off and on out there for five years. Everything from 2- and 4-Day Defensive Handgun, to Tactical Rifle and Advanced Defensive Shotgun. Even took an M-16 course – at night. For a California boy, the opportunity to not only train to high levels of expertise with a full-auto weapon (at night, no less) was quite a thrill, to say the least. (And yes, we had dedicated Sure-Fire Tac lights mounted on the guns.) Screen Shot 2013-03-11 at 2.04.50 PM

That’s when I introduced my (at the time) 10-yr-old daughter, Haley, to the world of shooting. At Front Sight she learned to shoot a .22 rifle… busting balloons stapled to targets. She did pretty well her first time out and I was impressed at how little the pop-pop-popping of the other shooters adjacent to her on the firing line didn’t phase her. But then, they let her try firing an Uzi. On full auto. And Daddy watched proudly as she, with very close supervision by their fine staff, pointed in the Uzi at the target and emptied a 25-round magazine into it. And she scored pretty decent hits. (She still has the target.)

Fast forward ten years. After much paperwork, red-tape, and California gun law hoop-jumping,…(whew!) … I finally took possession of a .22 rifle that Ruger had gifted me, as a result of winning a celebrity steel challenge nearly a year earlier. (I guess training out at Front Sight had paid off!) This rifle is a beauty. Match-grade barrel, gorgeous wood-grain, beautiful trigger. I put a scope on it, and it wasn’t much of a scope – I think I paid $30 for it at Cheaper-than-Dirt. But I was ready to try it out. And to my pleasant surprise, my daughter saw it and said, “Dad, take me shooting, too. I miss it!” Ahhh… Dad smiled.541506_10152697298030495_1665724585_n

So she and I loaded up rifles and shotguns and ammo and grabbed my longtime buddy, Jack, (who had trained with me out at Front Sight), and we headed out to his shooting club in Lake Piru, CA. It took a while to sight in my cheap scope, and find the zero at 100 yds. But finally, it was my daughter’s turn to shoot. With the big match-grade barrel it’s a heavy rifle for a .22, so I let her just bench-rest it on a couple sand bags. Within no time, she was doing half-fist-sized groups at a hundred yards. Dad’s smile got bigger.406795_10152696564240495_1114413113_n

We had a great time shooting together. She told me she was tired, but exhilarated. It’s a satisfying, empowering feeling to shoot guns and shoot them well. Haley wants to go again, and soon.

So, next week, after Church… pistols. Praise the Lord and pass the ammunition. She’s excited to bring a girlfriend…and I’m just excited she’s excited. Because I love the notion that my daughter…in her life, out in the world, dealing with God knows what (or who)…is a capable, confident and competent gun handler — and able to defend herself in the gravest extreme.

I think every American should avail himself or herself their 2nd Amendment right to own and carry a firearm. And I go further — I believe it’s not only a citizen’s right…but obligation to become familiar with guns and develop what we call the ‘satisfaction of skill at arms’. How else to defend not only yourself, but a loved one –if, God forbid, you or they are threatened or assaulted with overwhelming deadly force? Remember: The first rule in a gun fight…is to have a gun.
But don’t just have a gun – get training with that gun. Tactical training. Learn exactly what to do if you have to present your weapon, in defense of innocent life, and win the day in the face of a deadly attack.

Guns are very useful tools in not only stopping an attack by a dedicated evil person… but the very act of presenting the gun in a forceful, aggressive manner can generally stop a threat in its tracks. This is especially important to remember for women. The so-called ‘weaker sex’ is usually at quite a disadvantage in terms of weight and strength when faced with a male attacker.
To coin a phrase made famous by Samuel Colt — the gun is the ‘Great Equalizer’. It evens the fight. And the knowledge that women are packing… tends to make a possible attacker think twice. Rapists, robbers, burglars, murderers and general scum-sucking dirtbags are unanimously in full support of the liberals’ gun control laws. Since they don’t give a damn about obeying the law, they tend to not buy their guns legally anyway. But they sure love the idea of disarming you. Makes their evil practices all the more ‘comfortable’. Bad guys don’t like the notion of getting shot.

Fathers, brothers, sons, husbands…. Buy those precious women in your life a gun, and teach her how to use it. Better yet, take her out to one of the many tactical firearms training institutes like Front Sight. My daddy-daughter time spent on the firing line with my girl is sweet indeed. It’s not only fun — it spells ‘peace of mind’.
A lot of things can happen in the time it takes to dial 9-11 and the police arrive. A lot of bad things. But because I have a gun in the house, and my daughter is trained and comfortable in safe firearm handling, I know that if I were out of the house, away on business… and someone broke into the house, the intruder would have by far more problems than she would.
Contrary to popular liberal opinion… guns in the hands of good people is a good thing. The way to stop a bad guy with a gun… is a good guy with a gun.

More guns…less crime. And… more peace of mind.625512_10152696512725495_1657401075_n

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  • jay loeffers

    Loved his role in STAR TREK ENTERPRISE

  • jay loeffers

    Must have been weird being a conservative person on two different scifi TV shows

  • james leath

    and I love her t-shirt.

  • Fantastic! So refreshing to see a common sense guy in the acting world. Add to that his intelligence and sense of humor…winning package!

  • Paul

    You don’t need ten rounds to kill a deer though. :b

    • Wayne Hodge

      But you might need 30 to stop a riot and protect your family and property.

    • LadyDoc

      And Rosa Parks didn’t “need” to sit in the front of a bus, either.

      • beowulf32

        I am posting because you need to look this and not Obama`s skin color, there are people behind Obama that are out to destroy all of America black and white he will throw us under the bus when those behind him, got all the key elements in place for a government take over, for China and Russia . Trust me when I say you don’t want live under communist rule.


        In 1929, the Soviet Union established gun control.

        From 1929 to 1953, about 20 million dissidents,unable to defend themselves, were rounded up and exterminated.


        In 1911, Turkey established gun control.

        From 1915 to 1917, 1.5 million Armenians,unable to defend themselves, were rounded up and exterminated.


        Germany established gun control in 1938 and

        from 1939 to 1945, a total of 13 million Jews and others who wereunable to defend themselves were rounded up and exterminated.


        China established gun control in 1935.

        From 1948 to 1952, 20 million political dissidents,unable to defend themselves, were rounded up and exterminated.


        Guatemala established gun control in 1964.

        From 1964 to 1981, 100,000 Mayan Indians,unable to defend themselves, were rounded up and exterminated.

        —- ————- ————-

        Uganda established gun control in 1970.

        From 1971 to 1979, 300,000 Christians,unable to defend themselves, were rounded up and exterminated.


        Cambodia established gun control in 1956.

        From 1975 to 1977, one million educated people,unable to defend themselves, were rounded up and exterminated.


        Defenseless people rounded up and exterminatedin the 20th Century because of gun control: 56 million.


        You won’t see this data on the US evening news,or hear politicians disseminating this information.

        Guns in the hands of honest citizens save lives and propertyand, yes, gun-control laws adversely affect only the law-abiding citizens.

        Take note my fellow Americans, before it’s too late!Gun registration just makes it easy for the FEMA, Department of Homeland Security, IRS agents to come and confiscate your weapons.


        was never intended to help disaster victims (super storm Sandy victims), DHS was never intended to protect American citizens, and the

        16,000 new IRS agents authorized by Obamacare are all there to plunder and tyrannize American citizens.

        There are FEMA concentration camps throughout the USA, complete with gas chambers, watch towers, razor

        wire fencing, railroad tracks ready and waiting for all dissenters of the plutocratic, communistic, socialistic, Satanic, corporatist,

        oligarchic tyranny of the New World Order, the one world Satanic totalitarian military police state dictatorship, Agenda 21 of the UnitedNations.

        The American people are literally financing our own enslavement and destruction by paying the IRS’s extortion money.

    • Ole White Dude

      My 2nd amendment didn’t have qualifications on type, number or caliber. Did yours? It simply says “shall not be infringed.” That means I’m entitled to have whatever the hell the guy in the army has. I need to be able to stand toe to toe to any dirtbag tyrant in the future. And until or unless you geniuses out there can predict that there will NEVER be an oppressive regime come to power in the U.S. just shut the hell up. Because you’ll be the first ones pissing down you leg, looking for an answer to how your son or daughter just got taken away and you don’t know by whom or where they went. Hugo Chavez had thousands disappear when he came into office. So don’t think that it can’ t happen today. It’s already here.

      • Paul

        I just came back to check in and, wow, some pretty butthurt people in here. I’m surprised nobody realizes my comment was making fun of Cuomo when he passionately shouted, “you don’t need 10 rounds to kill a deer!!” I’m as pro-gun as they come.

        In fact, my family comes from the former USSR. We know all about gun control and “free healthcare.”

    • Are you really that ignorant?

    • edodaniel

      But it is nice to have them in case your sights got shifted when you fell into that ravine and have to watch bullet strike and use Kentucky Windage.

  • Gary, I could not agree more. We continue to say the same thing over and over but it falls on deaf ears where liberals are concerned. My son Tommy goes shooting with me all the time. He is a gun enthusiast too and it’s a wonderful activity that bonds mother and son. Every woman in America should be able to take responsibility for her own safety and every father, husband and son should support and encourage that. God bless you fellow warrior.

    • tionico

      so true Becky, and good on yer for helping your son to be more a man. No, not that guns are macho in themselves, but that you are teaching him what they ARE for, and how to use them. I’ll bet you’re also instiling in him a strong sense of responsibility to take care of himself, family, and those round about him, in the face of danger.

      Yes, women DO need to learn about, and how to properly use, arms. Read some of the events surrounding the start of the War for Independence, there are two amazing stories.. one about the Wife and Mother who, left home alone with her daughters whilst the men were out confronting the Regulars, managed to disarm and arrest half a dozen British officers in her home. She used wit, wisdom, stealth, and one of their own muskets. Then, old Mother Bathrick, who m arched six British Grenadiers off to the care of the local militia captain near Menotomy (now Arlington) Massachussetts as the militia chased the Redcoats back to Boston. Women and even children can, and did, have a solid part in that conflict. We need more of that spirit today. Glad you are “on the job”.

  • Norle Enturbulata

    Unfortunately, Front Sight is a front operation for the Scientology cult. And there are far better, less remote places to learn how to handle a firearm. So, in the dwindling days of the Scientology cult, is this a pro-gun message, or just a boost for a cult operation that’s been documented for years?

    • BS

    • You need to get back on your meds. Scientologists have a bevy of Hollywood celebs and they would not allow anything to do with guns. That dog won’t hunt.

    • and what kind of an idiot are you? I will bet you have never attended Front Sight.

  • And this is one of the reasons why being a father is so much fun. Keep her shooting straight.

  • NymRod

    The gun is the Great Equalizer that makes Pee-Wee Herman equal to Mike Tyson at a distance greater than arms length.

  • jq2intx

    This is a really good article many of our friends are also husband and wife teams who go shooting together. My wife and I love to hunt and fish as well as go to shooting sports events and my membership in IDPA has been a great help as well. I am sorry that some folks think that anyone who goes to shoot is a terrible person ultra right and all that stuff. Don’t forget that many politicians are also concealed carry people, including those who want to take away our rights to own and shoot guns.

  • tionico

    You two, and some of Haley’s friends, ought to head back to Lake Piru and take part in a weekend Appleseed event.. rifle marksnamship of highet quality, and Revolutionary War History, given as oral story. Find out more at applessed info dot org. Bring up the schedule, sign up, and go. Eighty bucks for Dad, and I think its forty for her and each of her friends. Any rifle will do, but a semi auto .22 is ideal. Rugers rule, normally. (I’ve seen nearly everything… 5.56 “black and ugly” rifles, AR 10, M1 Garand, Remingtin 700 in 7.62 NATO, AND AN 1886 Turk rechambered in 8mm Mauser. You will learn safety, accuracy, rapid fire, different positions, sling use…. and raise yhour present level of marksmanship while you learn of what was going on in the 1770’s and what happened at Lexignton and Concord.. and no, Longfellow’s poem is only right on maybe two or three points. Go and check it out. There are other ranges in Corona, Bakersfield, and a few others I’ve forgottn just now. Find them on the website.

    It is SO GOOD to see a MAN taking the time and trouble with his Daughter to properly train her in the comfort of skill at arms. If things do come down, let the “verdict” on her be “she knows very well what she is about”, as General Gage had to admit to his boss, the Kid King Charles three, about our forefathers after that little dustup that followed on his disarmament raid in Lexington and Concord. More of which you’ll learn if you do check out a “seed.

    Best to you both. You are doing a great service to posterity in helping her gain this skill. And her friends, too. Great work.

  • ErikTheRed

    This isn’t an “lol ur dauters hot” statement, but you have a gorgeous daughter who obviously has her priorities straight. Congratulations! Your pride is well deserved.

  • I have two Daughters (both love God), I have taught them three main things since they were babies. I have taught them to love the Word of God, the Constitution and Bill of rights, and how to intelligently defend both. I have also taught them how to handle a gun and how to shoot (thats what Dad’s are for), some of the best times we have had together has been hiking, fishing and shooting. But I gotta tell you it was a stretch the first time I put together a pink .20 gauge shotgun with black cheetah print grip stickers. At first I wasn’t sure how I felt about that but it wasn’t long after I got started that I realized who it was for, and that was a pretty good feeling knowing how those girls were going to like that shotgun. It does feel great to see them hit clay pigeons, but you really want to see a Dad proud just watch your Daughter intelligently defend the Second Amendment and the Bill of Rights with her school debate team. Great article loved it.

  • You’re an awesome guy Gary with more logical forethought than some of the people we have in Congress. Thank you for this post.

  • Michigan_REB

    Rapists, robbers, burglars, murderers and general scum-sucking dirtbags are unanimously in full support of the liberals’ gun control laws. That has got to be one of the best descriptions of our politicians I have ever read. DOn’t steal the government hate the competition.

  • John E Cooper

    Well done!! I’ve taught my wife, son, and daughter to shoot – and they all love it. It’s stories like this one that show the public that shooting shouldn’t be equated with violence – rather it’s a fun pastime that can be shared with loved ones!

  • gwedem5995

    guns in the hands of good people are good things, guns in the hands of bad people is bad, and it is a shame the politicians can’t seem to recognize this.

  • Dan

    Wonderful to hear such an affirming message. I know the best bonding I get with my 8 yo daughter is when I take her to the youth airgun shoots every monday. Once again these are the messages that the gun grabbers refuse to hear.

  • Lloyd

    Way to go Gary. Keep Haley shooting straight. Females can shoot just as well as males. It’s always wise to start them out at a young age, teaching them safety and proficiency. Looks to me as though she does pretty well. My wife never fired a gun until she was in her early 40s, and that was with skeet. She out done me, an experienced expert marksman. My children have been familiar with guns all of their lives. My oldest and youngest daughters are both shooters. They fear no man when it comes to self protection, and they do not fear a gun because of its size or power. This is a good message for all women young and old. Thanks for posting the message.

  • The brainwashed ‘Looney Left’ don’t realize that by calling for gun registration , they are following the Communist Party USAs’ manifesto, for taking over America !
    A matter of Fact; The Only reason the Japanese didn’t follow up the attack on Pearl Harbor, with an Invasion of Continental US is because Admiral Yamamoto had went to college in America and said “There would be a gun behind every blade of grass”, were the to attempt an invasion.

    Note; By Act of Congress, every male, of appropriate age, is to be a member of the ‘ Unorganized Militia’. As such, each is responsible for procuring their own weapons and ammunition suitable for use in a combat situation.

  • Tom

    Great Story! Thanks for sharing.



  • Kioga

    I can imagine your pride and enthusiasm as I have experienced the same GREAT feelings and sense of accomplishment with my daughter and several grandsons. Thanks for reminding me, an excellent article we should see more of !